What is your phantom?

Some notes from the sessions i'm attending at Loyola school of theology..

1. Need to be perfect - BEING LIKE GOD
     creating order based on rules
     this is very common
     people who follow doctrines per word (bookish, en punto)
     when essentially God asked us 2 things only - to love God above all things and love our neighbor like how God loves them
     there is a drive to be worthy, but the right idea is that we are in a constant cycle to perfection (but never actually reach that)
2. Need to be needed - SERVICE
     becomes wrong when you think/demand something in return after
3. Need to succeed (or seem successful) - IMAGE
     creates the need to have a mask to cover our ugly side
     we are driven by society's definition of successful (money, position)
4. Need to be special - DIFFERENT / UNIQUE
     common in artists
5. Need to be analytic - INTELLIGENCE
     we think we can control the world through our intelligence
6. Need to be safe & secure - FEAR
     what are you afraid of?
7. Need to do everything well - MAKE THINGS HAPPEN
     when you over do it (too many things), you tend not to focus and not to do things well
     you have a tendency for "flight" when something goes wrong
     counter phobic: when you are afraid of something you take control and turn things around and counter attack
8. Need to lead / control - ORDER based on IDEOLOGY (and justice)
     we want things our way and impose this on others
     danger: pairing up with #2. One serves the other leads
9. Need to be comfortable - PEACE

These are not necessarily bad as long as you do not associate your identity and soul to it. You just have to be yourself. It is important to watch your motives: right deed but wrong reason is still a wrong deed. It's wrong if you do these things for yourself...it should be for others!